ugh she irritates the hell out of me! edit because i should have said it in the original post
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Okay because not everyone reads replies. I'm not doing it to be shitty or immature. She has been known to take things we send there back to the store for money. School clothes, shoes, school supplies, toys, she has done it with all those things at one point or another. Also the boys have told us that they only get to play THEIR video games when her husband is not playing them. I am doing this to ensure they get their presents at all. Also you noticed I said I'm the only one working. We pay her child support. I buy toys and clothes for our house but I can't afford to buy for both houses. She has been telling the boys for months that if they want things to play with at HER house they need to get it from US because she is poor. Not something she should say to her kids and we are no better off than she is. So for those of you saying I'm in the wrong tell me you would supply for two households knowing the stuff might go back to the store for her benefit.... yeah don't think you would
YOU STICK TO YOUR GUNS~~!~!! If she is that cheap then thats her fault. I wont let my step daughter take anything from here to her BM's house. I know it will either 1 get tore up and or 2 never be returned. It is a sad situation.
Quoting teresa1267:YOU STICK TO YOUR GUNS~~!~!! If she is that cheap then thats her fault. I wont let my step daughter take anything from here to her BM's house. I know it will either 1 get tore up and or 2 never be returned. It is a sad situation.
How is the CO worded? If it says that the children must be able to take their belongings back and forth, then that is what needs to happen. By allowing YOU to withhold his children's belongings, DH is breaking the CO, I would think.
I assume we aren't talking about teens. teens seem to attach and it is a battle to keep things in our home because we are the custodial parents of all kids. Younger children were never allowed to take things and that's crazy the court order allows it. A reasonable choice would be that the kids get ONE specific (cheap) toy that could go back and forth. If that toy OR a replacement toy isn't brought back then no toys the next time. The way your so's court order reads seems like you are donating everything you work for to support her home. She sounds like my dh's ex. My dh's ex has NEVER bought anything but food (paid by food stamps) and dollar store stuff for my skids. They would get a big box of chips, candy, soda and popcorn EVERY Christmas since they were little. She still does this. My OSS is 23 and he showed my the gift he received this year , a big thing of nesquik and a 2liter of sprite. While this woman spends a minimum of $200 a month on her nails, toes and hair.
Good luck and court orders can be tweaked over time. I assume your court order doesn't state ALL toys, so bend the rules to fit the situation. I've been to court a couple dozen times and your issue isn't uncommon.
Quoting DDDaysh:
So, did you give it to the kids or not? If it is their property, she can hold him to it.
Quoting evilangel198431:
I'm not married to him she can't make me follow that stupid order. She is in the wrong she needs to get them stuff herself. Its not my job to supply her house with toys.
Quoting DDDaysh:
So, did you give it to the kids or not? If it is their property, she can hold him to it.
Quoting cyndiemac:I assume we aren't talking about teens. teens seem to attach and it is a battle to keep things in our home because we are the custodial parents of all kids. Younger children were never allowed to take things and that's crazy the court order allows it. A reasonable choice would be that the kids get ONE specific (cheap) toy that could go back and forth. If that toy OR a replacement toy isn't brought back then no toys the next time. The way your so's court order reads seems like you are donating everything you work for to support her home. She sounds like my dh's ex. My dh's ex has NEVER bought anything but food (paid by food stamps) and dollar store stuff for my skids. They would get a big box of chips, candy, soda and popcorn EVERY Christmas since they were little. She still does this. My OSS is 23 and he showed my the gift he received this year , a big thing of nesquik and a 2liter of sprite. While this woman spends a minimum of $200 a month on her nails, toes and hair.
Good luck and court orders can be tweaked over time. I assume your court order doesn't state ALL toys, so bend the rules to fit the situation. I've been to court a couple dozen times and your issue isn't uncommon.
Quoting evilangel198431:
Yeah she has also been known to take things back to the store for money. Both of their ds's have been broken at her house. Its not my job to provide for her house especially when he pays child support
Quoting teresa1267:YOU STICK TO YOUR GUNS~~!~!! If she is that cheap then thats her fault. I wont let my step daughter take anything from here to her BM's house. I know it will either 1 get tore up and or 2 never be returned. It is a sad situation.
Would you be insulted? And a second question...
- evilangel198431
on Dec. 30, 2012 at 9:24 PM