Anyway my DS (yes, I used DS instead of SS) always called me Momma/Name interchangeably. But mostly he'd say Name if he was talking about me to someone else. If he was talking directly to me, or if I was standing right there he'd say Momma.
This was his choice, and I frequently reminded him that he already has a Mommy, but he still said Momma. He liked it.
Anyway so his pre-k teacher took it upon herself to try to make him closer to BioMom and push him away from me. When he called me momma shed correct him, or sometimes even punish him.
BioMom and I look nothing alike. One with long brown hair, the other with short blond. When DS would draw pictures of him and me and say they were for me because he loved me she would say "no, you love your mommy, this is for her" and never give it to me. She'd send it home to Mom's.
DS even sat me down one day and asked me why his teacher didnt like me. What was I to say?
Anyway DH put her in her place a few times, telling her it wasn't for her to decide how DS felt about me. But we had problems all year.
This year I get along great with both teachers. I've always done well with DD's teachers. (Yes she's a step too). So this year has been better.
The funny thing? I'm now the coach on her 11 yo DD's basketball team! But, I have a lot more respect than she does, and I actually get along great with her DD and things between me and her are much better this year.
We even had the following talk the other day.
Skanky Teacher- Boy little DS sites does love you, doesn't he?
Me- Yeah, I'm so blessed to have him and DD both. They're my world.
ST- But really, I've never seen him light up like he does around you. You've got something special with him.
Me- He's my baby.
ST- I never realized how much you do for both of them, and how happy he is with you. To be honest I've never seen him like that with BioMom.
Me- yeah, it hurts me to see the relationship he has with her. I wish things were better for them, I know it can't be easy for her. Anyway, their relationship isn't our business. I just do my best to make both kids as happy and healthy as I can.
Man I can't wait until this woman is out of my life!