See what CafeMoms are saying about saving time this holiday season..
Sorry if I'm posting this twice. I typed it all up and hit submit but then it went poof. idk what happened. Let me know if you see another one from me like this so I can delete one. lol.
The pretrial for the step parent adoption of my soon to be ds is in about a week. ds will not be going. Attorney said there is no reason for him to go.
Background: bm still has parental rights. We have requested that they be terminated (obviously) as a part of the adoption. ds has not seen bm in almost 2/12 yrs. She didn't text/call him on Christmas like she has done for the past couple of years. (we were advised a long time ago by his counselor to not relay any messages from bm to ds anyway so he didn't notice) Bm did not reply to our request for mediation as required by the court to be completed within 7 days of the pre trial. The request (sent return receipt/ signature required) sent to her last known address (she provided for the court a couple of months ago) was not picked up within 15 days of delivery so it was returned to our attorney's office. She has only spoken to ds's amicus attorney a couple of times (once by phone, once by email) and was advised by the attorney to get an attorney if she didn't want her rights to be removed. She said she didn't have the money to do that or a car to get there (She is a bartender and could probably get approved for a court appointed attorney if she would request one but she has not done that)
So I have no clue what to expect from this pretrial and with the holidays I have not been able to get a hold of our attorney. Any advice would be greatly appreciated until I can get help from the professional lol.
** HAS ANYONE ELSE EVER BEEN TO/ KNOWS SOMEONE WHO HAS GONE THROUGH A PRETRIAL? I'D REALLY LIKE TO KNOW WHAT TO EXPECT. **
UPDATE* Before we got to trial we got bm to agree to sign a parental relenquishmet form which made the adoption officially uncontested. When we got to the court house the judge asked us if we were ready to proceed right then and there. Our pretrial turned into our final court date!! The parental termination of bm was granted and the adoption was finalized!! We were all (the attorney included) very surprised!
I'm a spanking, pro choice, country living, stay at home, Christian, private schooling, Texan mommy of one boy and two girls.