Anyone had this problem?
I used to do a lot more for my stepkids, when they came over I would always take them out, do fun things, shopping, etc.
I know I slowed down on taking them places after we had our 2nd son, it was hard taking a baby out with the older kids, and money was a factor as well. Kids get older, they want to do more expensive stuff. We still did our best to spend quality time with them at home.
I love my stepkids so much, but the stress their mother is putting us under by taking us to court is really getting to DH and I. Things were great since DH and I got together (well not great, but not bad either), 8 yrs we've been paying her outside of courts, now she decided it was time to do the court thing.
We don't know how to handle having the kids over and being able to let go of those feelings, kwim? I mean we do our best not to let it affect our relationship with the kids but its getting harder when BM keeps taking us back to court, wanting more $$.
SD1 (14 yrs) wants to come over this weekend, and we want her to, but it sucks because we think that BM is sending her over here fishing for info or something. It sucks to think that way but we don't know what to do.
Anyone been in a similar situation and have any kind words of advice or encouragement? We love all our kids but as you all know dealing with BMs and courts is not easy in the best of times.
Please no bashing (I hate to have to say that but there's one or more in every bunch!)