I'm new to the site, and I'm so excited that I found it. I want to come to a place where I can vent and my frustrations can be relatable without me feeling like a monster. I'm not sure of all of the abbreviations, but have a feeling like I'll get the hang pretty soon. Here's my story:
When I met my husband, I didn't have any kids and I was in my career with my own car and home. He had a two year old son at the time and his BM was pregnant again. He told me at the very beginning so it wasn't a secret. Of course at the time, I was like "Hell naw! Two kids!" One of which was brand new. However, he was a really good guy and my love for him grew so we ended up staying together. He gets his sons every weekend regardless of what we have going on. I have a family that is totally accepting of him and his kids. They treat his kids like they are really related. Fast forward down the line, and I now have my own two year old son with my two step sons that are 4 and 6. The four year old is sweet and doesn't really know the logistics of the family because I have been around his entire life. My six year old SS is where the problem is coming in. He is very manipulative but his dad doesn't see that. I don't press the issue. I have had to tell my husband that if you are going to get them, then you need to be here to watch them. Not me! They aren't coming to spend time with me. I see the oldest one causing issues down the line. He told me that his mother told him that I'm the reason him and his dad don't live together.
Some weekends are better than others. I wish that he had at least a traditional every other weekend relationship so I could get some rest. Remember, I was without my own child for two years and I was still giving up the weekends. I don't know what to do or how to proceed. Some days I have to figure out if my love for my husband is strong enough to withstand. We got into an argument once and we talked about splitting. My first thought was good bye and good riddance to the step kids. Isn't that terrible?? He is an awesome father. I've tried to explain how I felt about the situation to my husband, but I don't know if I'm handling it properly. What do I do?????