See what CafeMoms are saying about saving time this holiday season..
So bm is moving and her day care situation is changing. DH is court ordered to pay 55% of all day care costs. There haven't been many, mostly because bm hasn't really had a job, and now that sd is in school, she works during those hours. When she would give dh receipts he would always give her cash. So, now that she has moved and her and her bf broke up (she was letting sd stay home alone for a few hours with her boyfriend coming home before her to watch her) she doesn't have that 'option' anymore and really has to put her in a daycare of some sort. Anyway, not only did she not give dh her address until she actually moved (yes she knew where she was moving, sd saw the place and in the co it says that the moving parent must give 30 days notice or at least 5 days after knowing the actual addres) but she has told him that she has a new daycare plan set up but has not told him the name of it or the amount it will cost. My question is not really about bm or dh....I don't know if he actually asked the questions, i just know he doesn't know the answers. If that works for them, fine. However, if he is going to be paying extra money out of our budget (we don't share money but we both have things/bills we are responsible for, and then pay the extras together) then I feel like I should at least have proper notice on his new financial responsibility so that I can plan accordingly for the extra things. I am really bothered by the lack of information given in a timely way. Its not that I don't think he should be paying his share, its that I wish it was communicated in a timely way so that all families could plan accordingly. Am I wrong in wanting to know the information just so that I can plan, or am I over reacting?