So, I moved into my boyfriends house almost 2 years ago. I share custody with my ex-husband, so my children are with me after school everyday until 8pm and every other weekend, plus holidays, school shutdowns, etc. Well, my oldest son stayed with us until about a year ago and then decided that he didn't like my boyfriend and decided to stay with is dad, so now we only have 5 that stay with us. My sons had a room downstairs and the rest of us are upstairs. My youngest daughter has her own room as does his son. Our older daughters share a room because they are like best friends and begged to bunk together. Now the room that my son is in downstairs used to be a dining room, but has been used even before I got there as a bedroom. Now, my boyfriend wants to have a dining room again and to move my son upstairs to bunk with his son. my son is 10 and his is 7. They do hang out and play and some weekends they bunk together in my sons room, but I feel they would not bunk well permanently together. My son is not overly neat, but his room only gets slightly out of place and when I ask him to clean it, he is done withing 10 minutes. Now, my boyfriends son reminds me of pig pen from the Charlie Brown cartoons. His room is so messy and nasty. he still wears pull ups at night and I find them on the floor in his room and no matter how many times he is told, he still does it. When he is asked to clean his room, we have to sit and watch him or he will stop after a minute and play. He thinks having my son in his room will help his son do a better job at keeping his room clean, but I don't want my child put in a situation where he has to deal with it. I harbor guilt about leaving my children's father after 14 years of marriage. I made this situation for my kids and I struggle to keep them comfortable and happy and I am afraid to make him bunk with my BF son because I don't think he will be happy and then he will be upset with me. Does anyone know how I feel or have any advice for me?