My husband got a call from his sister. Well she tells him that their step-dad is dying from cancer (just like their mom did). The problem is this can't be confirmed since the Grandfather won't answer our calls. Things just are not adding up. Well his sister says that she is taking SD over to his house for the weekend for her to spend time with him. I don't want SD lied to! This is hurts my heart to think that someone has to make up a lie to see her. We have told him before that we would bring her over on our time, but he has remained friends with my DH ex-wife and doesn't want to see my kids only his "precious Granddaughter". I feel awful if he does have cancer, but when the person with the disease won't tell you about it, it just doesn't fit. I am not giving anyone in his family my opinion and am keeping these thoughts to myself. Cancer is an awful thing and no one should have to deal with this, especially a child who already lost someone that was very close to her.
UPDATE with clearer information...
just lost her Grandmother to cancer last August and was very upset
about the whole thing (understandibly) that is why I don't want him to
be lying to her just to see her more often. My DH's sister has forced
her way into being a "mom" to his daughter and really oversteps her
boundaries as an Aunt. I am not holding any grudges at all. The
Grandfather is. I would go over there in a heartbeat, but I know we are
not wanted there so why upset him. DH has taken her over there often
(since myself and my kids are not welcome. He seems to have more than a
"friendship" with DH ex-wife. She stays over there, he fixes her car
when it breaks down, buys her expensive gifts. It is really weird. The
ex-wife moved across town so he isn't able to see her all the time like
he used to, hence why he is saying that he doesn't get to see her as
often, she doesn't live as close anymore.