I'm starting to rethink and even doubt all of the supposed statistics that show subsequent marriages have a higher divorce rate.
Here is why. I think alot of families are created while the parents are just too young to handle the very real task of having to be more mature to make a marriage/relationship work when children are involved. Which is really sad.
I know I am even a product of this. My mom and dad were 18 and 20. They certainly didn't intend to start a family and get married just because they were having young sex at the drive-inn! But, of course they got married and tried. They probably shouldnt have even done that! What a mess. Divorced within a year. And now *I* am the one who is a statistic.
My father and mother remarried later in life. My father has now been married over thirty five years to my SM. My siblings got to enjoy having a nuclear family. They know no other way. I have to say, they are both much more grounded at their age right now than what I was at that age. they just don't seem to have any deep rooted problems that sometimes comes with not only having parents that were too young but then belonging to a divorced family.
I think there would be alot less children growing up to be adults with deep seeded issues if couples waited to procreate till later in life. BC is out there, it just doesnt seem like many are using it or using it effectively.
How many SM's in here are with a man who had children at a young age? Do you think that some of the behavioral problems of these children could be attributed to that?
Do you have more faith in the marriages you have right now because you are older and more mature than when he and his ex started out?
I don't think half the kids who exist today would if BC was just a given. Why? Most of the relationships that resulted in having children might have really just been a fly by night relationship that was forced into being something it wasn't because of a pregnancy.
Interested to see what you all think of my crazy theory. LOL!