I began this quest of disengagement to create a better atmosphere in our home with SD and it worked great for a few weeks but now I'm wondering if I did the right thing? I stepped out of reminding about homework, school work etc etc, becuase it only caused high blood pressure and fighting. DH is in charge of all that including discipline, totally on his own. SD went from honor roll to failing three classes because DH doesn't keep up with the homework, schoolwork, etc. Doesn't remind SD to do homework and then today he forget to send her to school with a uniform for yearbook photos. He texts me his pity party about it all and I'm wondering if I should just suck it up and do everything again. At least SD would be passing.
Since I stepped out the SD, actually thinks less of me, if that's even possible. She has lived with us since she was 6 and only sees her mother 4 times a year. Her and her father speak in whispers, it's actually just crazy. Before around December, I did everything involving her except for take her to school in the morning. I was a coach, a tutor, the carpool queen, the party planner, shopper...you get it.
SD is very manipulative and puts a lot of guilt on my husband.
Anyway, if you have any thoughts or suggestions I would be open to ideas!