One negative comment:
Would you choose to be "friends"
BM and I have never spoke, put me down in every way without knowing me, at all. She lives 6 hours away. I have never spoke poorly of her and have always praised her intellect and being as well as success to her son...my SS, who I raise as my own 24/7. I am also a BM and. My son has a SM, I thanked her and friend her in speaking with my son. Unfortunately my sons are the same age and have to see these same roles so differently. In the long run, I pray I have impacted both my children in a positive manner. My DH and I have a son together younger than the two older by 8 years, who views this. We try keeping as much of the "extended" relationships to a minimal understanding. Right now he just knows both brothers have another mom and dad that they go to visit.