Question for SM that are also BM. Does your DH ex see your kids and vice versa Does your ex see your skids. Here is my question skids have an event coming up at their school and I thought it would be fun to bring my DD to this. Now the skids will be going with their mother so that is my only issue. If it was on SO time I wouldn't think twice about it. Now I have been with SO for over a year and we don't have any kids together. Now and SD and DD are only 2 months apart so get along very well together. SS also gets a long great with DD. My thing is BM we don't get a long with she trys to make life more difficult by all the stupid games she plays and uses the kids as pawns to hurt SO. DD has never really seen or met BM I think maybe once for less than 5 mins. So I am not sure I want to expose BM to DD. I don't know what BM will do she might take skids and leave the event and then skids might not get to have fun. I mean 1 time last summer DD and I were going to go to this pool in the town we live in and SO called kids on the way to work and skids said they were getting ready to go to the same pool that I was going to take DD to. SO said hey look for SM and DD because they are going there too. So I thought it would be fun but BM doesn't really get along with me. Well BM ended up taking skids to a different pool and her excuse she told the kids is that other pool was too busy. It wasn't busy at all she just didn't want to see me or DD. Now if the situation was reversed and SO was taking skids to DD school event and he knew exh/BD he would not bring skids because exh is an abusive person and just an a-hole that SO hopes that his kids never have to meet my exh/BD. Which I totally understand. Now I understand that there are some families that all get along together so get together for holidays and birthdays etc. I hope to someday be there but I don't think it would ever happen I know it won't with my exh and don't think it will with BM. So I am just looking for advice or ideas of how others handle this.