SD11 was born with faulty plumbing. She still wears pull ups at times and has accidents while sleeping.
When she is here-we have a mattress protector on her and DD's beds-if they wet themselves-they strip the beds-put on fresh sheets/clean themselves up and put on clean clothes.
All dirty laundry gets thrown into the basement (I do laundry daily)
No mess, no fuss!
Yesterday, BM called DH spazzing because she was cleaning the girl's bedroom (SD11 and SD14)and found dirty panties under SD11's bed.
(What did she expect DH to do about it?)
She went on a rampage for 20min solid about what a slob his daughter is and how unfair it is for SD14 to be sharing a bedroom with such a pig.
Now, we've talked to SD before about this-just strip your bed-change your sheets and clean yourself up-let BM know you had an accident-put everything in the hamper.
She said she has to hide everything from her mom because otherwise BM announces to the whole house that SD11 wet her bed-and all the kids (and BM) make fun of her because of what happened. And yes I have seen this firsthand.
DH told her-just let SD11 wash everything herself-and BM screamed "YOU KNOW SHE'S TOO STUPID TO TOUCH MY WASHER" Y EAH bm doesn't allow anyone to touch her washer/dryer.
But yet SD11 does her laundry here with no problem...I swear 90% of her problems (BM) she causes herself.
She lets too much shit get to her and overreacts with every situation like a drama queen.