I guess I think I'm fair when it comes to disciplining my 2 step kids, but my husband thinks I'm going over board. If any stepmoms have advice Please Help!
Quoting 20below:My husband and I have a 2 yr old boy together. He has full custody of his kids. Tonight as I was dusting pictures I noticed that on a big picture collage of our 2 yr that we got when he was like 3 months old that there was a red pen scribbles all over it! I know that it was our 2 yr, but I also know that he had found that red pen sitting by the computer that was my step daughters pen that I have been telling her to put away so our 2 yr old wouldn't get it and mark things like that. So anyways I told her and my stepson to go down to their rooms and find all their pencils, pens, markers, etc. and throw them away! I have gave them a lot of warnings that if their going to have them in their room thats fine, but keep them up so their little brother wouldn't get them. My husband said that I was in the wrong and better get all the pencils, pens, etc. out of the trash and give them back and apoligize, because its everyones fault even his and mine! So I did
He's right. You could have been watching your kid better. Instead, you didn't and you totally blame the kid who left the pen out for your kid scribbling on your picture. Watch your kid, remind the older one to put the pen away, and let dad handle his kids from now on
John Locke
lol, how ironic, thats one of the things we argued about tonite also.....i just posted about it ...
did he yell at you and tell you that you were wrong and had you do this in front of the skids
I've got a 2 year old also and know how sneaky they can be. I've also got my 2 SS's here full time, who constantly leave things out. Yes,I ask them to put things away, but they're kids and it doesn't always happen. Bottom line is the 2 yr old is My responsibility and if does ruin something it's because he's not being supervised properly.
Quoting 20below:My husband and I have a 2 yr old boy together. He has full custody of his kids. Tonight as I was dusting pictures I noticed that on a big picture collage of our 2 yr that we got when he was like 3 months old that there was a red pen scribbles all over it! I know that it was our 2 yr, but I also know that he had found that red pen sitting by the computer that was my step daughters pen that I have been telling her to put away so our 2 yr old wouldn't get it and mark things like that. So anyways I told her and my stepson to go down to their rooms and find all their pencils, pens, markers, etc. and throw them away! I have gave them a lot of warnings that if their going to have them in their room thats fine, but keep them up so their little brother wouldn't get them. My husband said that I was in the wrong and better get all the pencils, pens, etc. out of the trash and give them back and apoligize, because its everyones fault even his and mine! So I did
ya, that's going overboard. I have kids and would never make my older ones throw out their writing utensils because their younger sibling wrote all over something. Teach the 2 year old not to write on things. When he does have him help you clean it up every time. Blaming his older siblings on things he does is going to teach him to blame them as he grows up and at 2 he's old enough to start learning that. And their rooms should be THEIR rooms. Their little brother should be taught not to go in there or they should be given locks for their doors.
Quoting 20below:My husband and I have a 2 yr old boy together. He has full custody of his kids. Tonight as I was dusting pictures I noticed that on a big picture collage of our 2 yr that we got when he was like 3 months old that there was a red pen scribbles all over it! I know that it was our 2 yr, but I also know that he had found that red pen sitting by the computer that was my step daughters pen that I have been telling her to put away so our 2 yr old wouldn't get it and mark things like that. So anyways I told her and my stepson to go down to their rooms and find all their pencils, pens, markers, etc. and throw them away! I have gave them a lot of warnings that if their going to have them in their room thats fine, but keep them up so their little brother wouldn't get them. My husband said that I was in the wrong and better get all the pencils, pens, etc. out of the trash and give them back and apoligize, because its everyones fault even his and mine! So I did
Quoting 20below:That's the thing though, my husband and I have agreed long time ago that's is one way we discipline them! If there in the wrong then we take something away! My husband was also worried that now we have to go buy new pencils and pen! Which I told him that all those writing utensils were from last year school supplies that they can't use again at school just at home
throwing them away was over kill. but do NOT say you're sorry for it. get them out of the trash after the kids go to bed and put them up. leave only one small set out and they all have to ask you before they can use them and have to put back one before they can have another. and move or put away anything you don't want drawn on lol you have a 2 year old pens call to them
Would you be insulted? And a second question...
- 20below
on Jan. 16, 2013 at 8:52 PM