The latest from my stable - DH had a loud one with me last night about a lot of pent up resentment that crops from a lot of things gone wrong over the past three years. Esp with SD. She is 14 and struggling with her pubertal issues and has effectively started fighting with her mother, back answering DH and completely stonewalling me. I have decided to be distant with her, although it feels un-natural and so I draw her into a conversation whenever I find something to say - trivial mostly - like "are those new frames?" to get a nod or a grunt in response. I mostly leave her be, hoping that someday she will come around.
DH, SD and I recently went on a trip where SD and I didnt talk much, neither of us cared. DH went ballistic on me yesterday and told me that there will be no more vacations together with SD for me - its a waste of money, because the two of you don't talk and he does not want to see that.
I told him I cannot force conversation on an unwilling child, quoting that his interactions with her are pretty awkward too and she has outright fights with her own mother, where the mother doesn't always win!! But DH's brilliant idea is that he cannot stand that she and I don't talk and interprets it as my hostility. He squarely told me that he has no intention of mixing his family with me anymore (including his brothers and cousins, etc) and that I am not to go for vacations/holidays with them anymore, but he and SD will.
I don't have family in the US other than DH and his family, so I suppose here on all holidays will be a lonely affair, being by myself while these guys go vacationing, partying and getting together.
I was reduced to tears. I don't know why I care so much for someone who clearly doesn't care for me. I must be shameless.