how long have they called you that? Was it something they initiated or you or maybe BD? How does BM feel about it?
SD calls me mom. She wanted to right from the beginning when DH and I started dating, but I wasn't comfortable with that. After a year together and then the birth of her baby sister DH and I felt it was okay for SD to call me mom if she wanted, I never told her she had to or even really encouraged it. She's been calling me mom for four years now.
BM doesn't like it, but seeing as she never talks to SD unless it's during the summer, SD's birthday, or during Christmas, I don't really care what BM feels. She stepped out of the mom role when SD was 2 (3 years before I came into the picture) and hasn't had much to do with SD since...the only reason she sees her during the summer or for Christmas is because BM lives with her own mother and her mother wants to see SD.
SS usually calls me "lucky" but every now and then he will say "luckymom". He has told friends recently "yeah thats my mom and dad" but I think that was more because he didnt want to explain it, he was more interested in the activities at hand.
I dont have a clue what BM thinks, nor do I car, after the circumstances under which we got custody and her subsequent refusal to stay in contact with SS.I told SS way back in the day "You can call me lucky, or a nickname, or whatever you want as long as its a nice name. Its up to you" and left it at that. We dont obsess over titles here.
yes. since she was 2ish, she's almost 12 now. I had my son when she was 2.5 so i think she picked up on the mommy thing from everyone talking to the baby. BM was upset at first, but she wasn't in the picture much so by the time Sd was in preschool she understood she had two mommies and BM had gotten over it.
Sometimes. Usually, it’s an accident, but there have been a few times he’s said it intentionally. For the most part, he calls by my first name.
I’m sure BM would flip her gourd if she knew that SS ever called me mom. She cringes anytime I’m introduced as a ‘stepparent’. It’s a little hypocritical, because she makes SS refer to her husband as ‘Dad’. I’m sure she would be equally angry to know that SS refers to her by her real name when he’s with us. I don’t know why he does it, because we always refer to BM as ‘your mom’, ‘mommy’, etc.
No. I'm not their Mom.
Only when they want to embarrass me, apparently I'm "cute" when I'm turning various shades of red. They don't do it often, usually just in public to have fun. They initiated it, their dad (my husband) thinks it's hilarious as does their mom (who has said that's what I get for marrying their dad). :)
My SS calls me mom. We never encouraged it all. After about a year of marriage to his dad he started calling me that. At first, he just called me his mom to others and then it just turned into mom when he addressed me. We never talked about it.... whether he should call me by my first name or not. It just happened. But his mom hasn't as much as called him in over 3 years so I do wonder if he would call me mom if she was an active part of his life.
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