Hi, Im getting married soon. All 5 of his kids live in another state. 4 are by his ex-wife and 1 is a baby mama. He has always paid cs on time for all of them without complaint. We even sent extra for the 2 adult kids when they need it. Now my issue is the youngest. He is 10 and just lost his mom to cancer. I dont want him to think Im trying to replace his mom because I would never do that. Im a bm as well and cant imagine doing that to another mom. How do I help this boy adjust to a new state, school, family. How do I help my kids adjust to having a new brother? He is an only child that is becoming the oldest. My dd will now be a middle child. Our whole family dynamic will soon be changing alot. We are putting df son in grief counseling asap. But what to do with the rest of the family? I have never been in a sm role and now I will be a full time one. I just dont want to somehow cause more harm to this child in anyway. He has been through soooo much.
df went to Maryland thinking it would be sooo simple to get his ds. NOT!!! No one told him he would have to file for custody for his ds from a second cousin. She tried to fild emergency custody without telling df until late the nite before that he would get to see ds in court and only in court. She thought he would be unprepared and she would get awarded custody. Df is allowing ds to stay there til the end of the school year because that's what ds is insisted on. The caseworker told her df had first rights to his son. If he wanted to take him now legally df couldn't be stopped, just delayed.
Df just got a call from her telling him that she is moving and changing her number. She also told him to not waste his money coming to get ss at the end of the school year. Df now feels just defeated. This lady is saying she is not going to give his son to him as agreed. She is just going to disappear with his son.