any advice on how to deal with an impossible woman? (long)
my hubby and I have been together almost 7 years. He has two children with his ex wife. His ex wife is a complete pshyco. My hubby is an ARMY veteran, he was medically discharged, deals with PTSD among other things, and he is currently unemployed and we are living with my father while we work on my hubby's getting into schooling and such to get into another career. His ex wife causes us so much stress all the time. she is CONSTANTLY texting him and telling him how horrible of a father he is and on and on and she contradicts and is hypocritical of everything she says. if shes not texting shes leaving awful voicemails, if its not voicemails its emails, if we block her she stalks us through xbox, if we block that she starts all over by going through friends and family of hers to use different numbers or profiles that we also end up having to block. after like 7 years of this its finally gotten my hubby to the point that he has an appt set up to see a therapist because he just cant deal with her toxicity. he cant just ignore her because they have children together and of course he wants to be part of their lives. she lies to their kids and has even had the CHILDREN leave horrible messages before, but when we see them the kids are all sunshines and rainbows. she is always yelling at me and about me, she calls me everything you can imagine, she refuses to let her kids acknowledge my existence, - but she has never even met me! she refuses to, and has even told me "i do not have to get along with you" etc. etc. i dont understand it ?? i have never tried to make her kids call me mom or even stepmom, they just call me by my name. I have never talked ill about her around their kids and even when she had her 6th child with her 5th baby daddy this past october, i congratulated my stepkids on their new sister and such. however on the flip side, in about one week i'm due with me and hubbys 3rd child together. when i had my first kid she spent the whole time trying to convince my hubby my daughter was not his, and that i look like i've been hit with a mack truck. the second time she went on about how my kids are bastards, this third time she keeps saying we shouldn't be allowed to have children and that I (me) need to get a job and go out and support HERS because they came first, (she just sits on her butt all day) just yesterday she told my hubby that he needed to stop letting his "thing" (meaning me) blow all his money (were unemployed and live with my dad what money??) and once again told him my children are probably not his etc. when she has a really bad day she'll have her friends leave messages on our phone pretending to be my husbands secret affair pregnant girlfriends (this has happened several times). its rediculous. we've gone to court many times for many things including contempt of court on her side and have presented tons of email evidence and etc, but no one ever cares or does anything its just shame shame slap on the wrist go back to mediation. sorry so long but its getting to a point where shes affecting my husbands sanity and i dont want my kids to grow up finding out some random person out there is calling them bastards. who does that??? how can a child who is so small and innocent already have someone out there who hates them and calls them names? any advice is more than nothing. anything. really.