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What role(s) do you play?

Posted by on Jan. 18, 2013 at 1:15 PM
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I'm bored, and a little nosey so I thought I'd ask. What role or roles do you play within your family?

Sometimes I will read a response in a post and think "yep, she's a BM" or "yep, she was the OW" or "yep she's the jilted EW/BM turned SM" etc etc etc (you get the picture lol)

Soooo instead of trying to figure everybody out, I thought I'd just ask. What is your role?

I'm mommy to an amazing little boy, Fiance' to his amazing daddy, and SM to his amazing little sister.

So that's me......who the hell are you :)
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JalensMommy2012
by on Jan. 18, 2013 at 4:45 PM
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MomGoingCrazy78
by Lindy Lou on Jan. 18, 2013 at 5:02 PM
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I'm BM to DD11 and DS9 and SM to SD10 and Wife to DH for 7 years. Oh, and I wasn't the "OW" either!! ;)

Busymom855
by Member on Jan. 18, 2013 at 5:09 PM
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I'm bm to dd 7&5, ds3. Sm to 3 sds 14, 10 & 7. I also have and wonderful DH and sometimes I'm the ow. It just depends on our mood... Lol
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packermomof2
by on Jan. 18, 2013 at 5:10 PM
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I don't play a role.  I am mom.  This isn't a game or some sitcom I'm living in... no role playing here... 

pepper504
by Gold Member on Jan. 18, 2013 at 5:16 PM
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I'm BM to DD15 (she will be 16 next month), I have been married for almost 6 years (next month as well) and I have a SS that is 14 years old. 

whatIknownow
by Ruby Member on Jan. 18, 2013 at 5:19 PM
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Mom to two kids in college. I am divorced from their dad, so I guess that makes me an ex-wife. The divorce was my idea, I left him. So, I don't think I qualify as "jilted." I have an amicable relationship with my Ex at this point.

Stepmom to two teenagers; my DH has custody, they go to their mom's EOWE. She is not very involved, but not uninvolved either. She's like, medium-involved. Not much participation in school or doctor stuff but goes to their ECs. They love her and she has a good relationship with them as far as I can tell. I think she just prefers to leave a lot of stuff to my DH (and me).  I have no relationship with BM, but my DH has a fairly good working relationship with her.

Tinkerbellmama
by Platinum Member on Jan. 18, 2013 at 5:24 PM
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SM to SD (12)

BM to DS (almost 10), DD (6) and DD (4)

Wife of DH (he's the father of all of our children). We've been married for going on 11 years. I was not the other woman, BM left DH when SD was born and left SD with DH. Although, BM has tried to claim several times that I was the OW and stole her family... BM is supposed to have EOWE, but takes one weekend a month by choice. She's very uninvolved, she's come to 3 of the 5 school meetings (IEP meetings and parent teacher conferences), she doesn't come to EC, she's never met SD's doctors, therapists, or specialists. I do all of that stuff, DH works more than full time and is very involved with the kiddos.

dawnnamarie
by Silver Member on Jan. 18, 2013 at 5:27 PM
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Most importantly: I'm a stb dw to my amazing fiancé! Ive asked myself if he's worth all the drama of a blended family, and he is!!! :):)

If you want to get technical, I was the ow. Bm cheate on DF several times, he filed legal separation and divorce. The divorce was not final when we started dating, but bm had already moved another guy in and they had a temp. custody agreement.... But he WAS still legally married. Bm likes to bring this up when she gets mad at me, no matter what it's over.

I listed DF first because We live our lives in a way where we try to make sure that relationship always comes first, because the whole family suffers if our relationship suffers. :):)



I'm bm to dd2. Her father isn't involved and has never seen her, so it's shaped my opinions a bit. I get very upset when I feel like a bm is taking advantage of a guy who is just trying to be a good dad



I'm a stb sm to ss4. He's a sweetie.

DF now is custodial parent, so it's going to be a hectic, exciting new challenge ! We've taken care of most of the custodial responsibilities already though( drs, school, etc.) , so I don't think it'll be a huge change.
Bm goes back and forth between being "super mom" ad too busy to be bothered with him. They just got custody straightened out a few days ago, so I'm curious to see which extreme she goes to when she's not getting cs and the financial benefits of having ss. It's sad that I should even think that :( as of now, she's involved to a point, but DF often expresses thanks for me being the female figure in ss's life that is reliable and always there for him. I hope that ss will also see me in that way when he's old enough to really understand. I don't want to be and never will be mom, but I'm ok with that! if ss eventually sees me in that light, I'm ok with that, too.
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saywhat2102
by Gold Member on Jan. 18, 2013 at 5:36 PM
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I'm a wife to my amazing husband and a proud CSM to the coolest lil dude in the world (least I think so) :) 

JalensMommy2012
by on Jan. 18, 2013 at 5:40 PM
Ok I'm halfway sleepy so maybe I am missing it, but why did you point out you were not the other woman? I've read your response like 967 million times lmao and eachv time I'm likew huh lmao soooooo do tell
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Sorry for any typos there is a 5 month old monsteeer controllin g my right thumb and attacking the left one ramdo$ly with his gums!! He is awful


Quoting MomGoingCrazy78:

I'm BM to DD11 and DS9 and SM to SD10 and Wife to DH for 7 years. Oh, and I wasn't the "OW" either!! ;)


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