I need advice...or I need to vent. Not sure which. My husband and I have been married for two years. I have never had children, he had two. One was 18 and the other was 13 when we started dating. The 18 yo moved out. The 13 is about to turn 16 next month...however, she acts like she is 10. She doesn't brush her teeth, comb her hair, take a bathe, etc. unless being told to do it. She is a slob. She has two jobs in this house, empty the dishwasher wherein she just puts stuff away whereever she feels like and however she wants. The other job is to wash her own clothes. I offered up for her to clean the litterboxes and pay her for it, but she doesn't do that. I don't give her money and if she wants anything "extra" she has to buy it herself...but she's too lazy to do that. Her school work is at best Cs and Ds only because she is too lazy to do her homework. I have tried talking to her, I have tried taking things away and it's all a "minor inconvenience". She doesn't have friends or go anywhere so grounding won't work for her. She's been diagnosed with ADHD and is on medication for it. As I explained to her, the medicine will help her attention problem, but she still has to find a way to work with it and keep herself in check. I explained to her that these things that she is doing now is going to carry over into her adult life. Being lazy and doing whatever you want doesn't cut it in corporate america. She is NOT going to live here at 18 and not work or go to school...both of which she has no desire to do. My husband is sick of me bitching about her...and I have no backing from him anymore in regards to venting. She is driving me insane.....and I don't know what to do about it.