My question is how much is dh supposed to work with bm until it's ridiculous? The Co does not designate that bm is granted make up time if she can't take her scheduled days. Dh and I have both had to change our work schedules around sd, but bm wants us to work around her? The line of work bm is going into does not provide a set schedule, so it would most likely be bm letting dh know that she needs to change on a weekly basis.
What job will she be doing? I see nothing wrong with working with BM on the days she can see her child, especially if the alternative is her not getting to see the kid.
I think common sense dictates that BM should have make-up time if she can't make her scheduled day. What possible reason would you not allow it?
Quoting whatIknownow:I think common sense dictates that BM should have make-up time if she can't make her scheduled day. What possible reason would you not allow it?
If it will interfere with something important you obviously don't have to change. However, if it's just punishing BM or playing tit for tat, that needs to stop.
Quoting miapia1020:
We're already willing to be flexible on things (dh has agreed to moving the day so bm can see sd for her afternoon visit.) The problem is that with her work schedule it will most likely be that the days will be all over the place. One week she might make Tuesday, the next it's Thursday, etc. bm also never gives more that 24 hours notice on things changing, so it would all be last minute. I don't seehow feasible it's going to be for dh to have to constantly move his work schedule around because of bms plans.
Quoting whatIknownow:I think common sense dictates that BM should have make-up time if she can't make her scheduled day. What possible reason would you not allow it?
Quoting Mistweave:I wouldn't have been flexible the first time. She didn't want to be flexible when you needed it so she shouldn't get it her way when she wants it either.
Ideally parenting requires parents working together, DH and I have had to change our schedules to accommodate our children many times, it is part of parenting. I think it is best for SD to work with her mother as much as you can but as CP you don't have to.
I don't understand what it has to do with DH's work schedule. Why does it matter if he's working or not?
Quoting miapia1020:
We're already willing to be flexible on things (dh has agreed to moving the day so bm can see sd for her afternoon visit.) The problem is that with her work schedule it will most likely be that the days will be all over the place. One week she might make Tuesday, the next it's Thursday, etc. bm also never gives more that 24 hours notice on things changing, so it would all be last minute. I don't seehow feasible it's going to be for dh to have to constantly move his work schedule around because of bms plans.
Quoting whatIknownow:I think common sense dictates that BM should have make-up time if she can't make her scheduled day. What possible reason would you not allow it?
Who pays the sitter?
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- miapia1020
on Jan. 20, 2013 at 1:57 PM