This site has made me see that not only one that has a difficult ss14. I still believe in my heart that ss should clean rm and have his things taken care of before he leaves for bm home. But been battling for 3 yrs and dh will not enforce anything. I feel that teaching him manners and responsability is a good thing but i guess not comeing from me. dh informs me ss14 hates me and has blocked me from his f\b that i created for him. That truly has hurt me. So stepping back dh can figure it out and i will keep my distance and not say nothing but talk to your dad. I told my husband i was stepping out of it for my sanity he seems fine with it. But i wonder who is going to wash them dirty clothes and dishes that sitting in his rm for 2wks since dh didn`t make sure it was done before he left.