I have noticed DH is taking more responsibility. Slowly, but he is doing it. Thank goodness for that! I don't feel that constant pressure of cooking, cleaning, working a full time job, and coming home to 3 children ( I have one, DH has one...and then DH has been one lol!) A lot of the pressure has been lifted from me. Now that DH is taking more responsibility, I have noticed that his 4 year old has virtually no respect for him. I understand he is 4 and pushing those limits...I went through the same thing with my DD but never to this extreame. I do realize that ss is a COD at a very young age and is definatly acting out with the different rules of both houses ...but DH is going crazy! He is super gentle with the child and the child is just super defiant! That's when DH looses his temper and yells, screams and slams doors. SS seems to have no respect for him and constantly talks back. For instance, this morning he got SS up and was getting him dressed. SS cried and whined the whole time (20 mins) while putting on his clothes. DH dressed him (although ss can dress himself) and put on his shoes. SS started screaming that he wanted the other shoes. DH was running late and said no we have to go. SS pitched the biggest fit in front of the bedroom door. DH was speaking gently to him...nice and sweet...no son...you have to be a big boy and go to school now please move away from the door...SS started crying louder telling him NO! I WANT MY OTHER SHOES! I DONT WANNA GO TO SCHOOL! This lasted for 10 mins! I got up and left the living room to let the dog out to potty, but heard DH loose his temper and scream at him and pop his behind. He was still steaming when he put him in the car because I heard both the house door and the car door slam. I was hoping someone had some advice for DH on how to earn that respect back. Is it possible? I realize it will take time...probably a lot of time...but maybe other methods rather than blowing up.