Do you think you are a better SM because your Bio kids have a SM?
I believe I am. My DD has a SM that I do not particularly like but she is nice to my DD and I believe that she has good intentions for her. DD's SM has crossed boundaries before but I have always taken that up with BD as I believe that most, if not all, communication should be between BM and BD.
With my SK's I would prefer BM to go directly to BD. Sometimes this does not happen and every time I answer my phone when it is BM I immeditly regret it. I always try to stay out of the way of BM because they are, afterall, her kids. I have always done that and I always will. I'm sure I have crossed BM's boundries (not on purpose) in the past but I try very hard not to.
If I didn't have the experience of having my own kids I don't know if I would make a good SM. What do you guys think? Would you make a good SM if you were not already a Mom?