Ok my fellow Stepmoms I need some advice and need to vent a little. The situation between my df and bm is just so unnecessarily hostile. She is one of those people who think what they do or think is it. There is no reasoning with the woman. She is very uneducated but thinks she knows everything.
Little back story, we knew each other in HS same parties and that kinda of thing never friends. She slept my my bf. Whatever...8 years later we ended up living in the same apartments. Our kids would play outside together when we would see each other outside bla bla. I was in a abusive relationship with an alcoholic and she was with her sons father on and off. He was only with her because he didnt want to be away from his son. He couldnt stand her. They finally broke up and him and I stayed friends. Months later him and I started seeing each other and didnt tell anyone. Meanwhile he was still seeing his son, had him half of the week. They shared him fairly with out court and all that drama. Well when she found out he was seeing someone (didnt know it was me) she started being a bitch and using the child as a pawn against him. Well then she found out it was me. Took her son and hid at her fathers house wouldnt let him see him. They ended up in a long and ridiculous court battle. Now this is a woman who would get so drunk and pass out on her living room floor that I slept on her couch a few times to make sure the child was taken care of. He was only 2 at the time.
After she moved to the next town over she still couldnt just stop being a crazy she took her son and moved in with her brother 85 miles away. She moved as far as she could with still staying in the state. My df drives this twice a week to see his son when he has his son. Its not like on the days he doesnt bring him home for his weekends he can just bring him home and have dinner at our house and do his homework. He has to stay up there and find stuff to do. Its the boonies and doesnt have much to do. My df does whatever he can for his son. He loves him dearly and would do anything for him. Its 380 miles a week he drives to see him. Df lost his job and is still looking for one, thank god Im working so he has money for gas and stuff so he can still see him. We have been sending what ever we can for his CS but its not the full 90 a week we is supposed to do. He tried getting it modified temp. while he still looks for a job but she oppsed it and now they have to go back to court.
She just moved in with her new boyfriend in his house and changed G's school. They had yesterday off of school so my df tried to switch his weds to Tuesday so he could take G to his new school and hopefully walk around and stuff so he had some idea of what he was walking into. He has ADHD severely and isnt medicated nor does she do anything to help the kid. Well she told my df NO her boyfriend was going to take him. WTF. My df was heartbroken, so upset. Her bf isnt G's father or even step father. She did that to spite my df.
G's always tells my df how much he misses him and wishes he could live with us. This situation breaks my heart and we just dont know what to do. We have been together for 5 years now its time to get over it.
DF does all the driving back and forth and does whatever he can for his son. She is trying to push my df out of his life and create some happy little family with her new boyfriend. I just dont know what to do to help my df. Its so hard not being able to say something because I really want to rip the bitches face off. I know this is long but can anyone give me any advise?