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Dh got laid off and his brother offered for him to go do a truck driving job for the better part of 10 months. Itd suck but there be no other choice. Bm admitted to dh the other day that in a court case she knows shed necwr get sd. However she asked if could trying living with her for a few months. If a smaller school district would be better for her autism. Dh told her no and I've had drs tellus itd be a bad Idea and even be willing to write ketters which bm wants to see. The problem I'm concerned about is even though dh has full legal custody and they share physical she's going to give me a hard time about it if she finds out dh is gone forthat long.
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by on Jan. 25, 2013 at 4:22 PM
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bertaboo1
by Silver Member on Jan. 26, 2013 at 6:15 AM
That is a terrible thing to say! It's not like there are jobs on every street corner these days! Unemployment rose to 8.4 in my state alone. Dad is trying to provide for his family. It's not like a job working taco bell can support them! Mom has drug history and her family calls the child names and wants to disapline the retarded out of her. Seriously that's horrific. Just because the child entered the world via bms vagina doesn't always mean she is the best thing since sliced bread. If bm is truely unfiit...then speak to your lawyer to grant some sort of temporary custody. If bm is unfit ...then there shouldn't be a problem.


Quoting soonergirl980:


Well then I guess your DH better find a job that won't make him MIA for 10 months.


Quoting mamaBerg85:

Her mom has drug felonies, her moms family says sd is retarded and that they want to discipline the autism out of her. Mom moves away for months at a time and goes months without seeing her. Her mom never wanted her to livev there until she found out sd gets ssi. I'm not perfect but I faught tooth and nail to get that kid services even before dh and I were married. Many yrs before even applying for ssi. Bm would take sd to a dingy lil town without a special needs school, no therapy or social skills groups or anything I've already looked for similar programs in bms area for sd to do during the summer only therapist for emotional issues exist in that area. Sd is in 3 different types of therapies through out the month. This is why she lives with us. Mom wouldn't even schedule a surgery for ear tubes during the 6m she had custody and the dr said if sd had gone any longer with out tubes sd would be deaf.





Quoting soonergirl980:

If he is going to be gone that much then the kid should be with the mom.







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mamaBerg85
by Silver Member on Jan. 26, 2013 at 8:49 AM
Thank you I try to stay positive. I want to do what's best for my kids. This is my husband too. When I read stuff like this I am shocked. How can anyone think I just want my husband gone for 10 ms? I don't! He's the love of my life and the best father my children could ever have. He's doing this for them!


Quoting bertaboo1:

That is a terrible thing to say! It's not like there are jobs on every street corner these days! Unemployment rose to 8.4 in my state alone. Dad is trying to provide for his family. It's not like a job working taco bell can support them! Mom has drug history and her family calls the child names and wants to disapline the retarded out of her. Seriously that's horrific. Just because the child entered the world via bms vagina doesn't always mean she is the best thing since sliced bread. If bm is truely unfiit...then speak to your lawyer to grant some sort of temporary custody. If bm is unfit ...then there shouldn't be a problem.




Quoting soonergirl980:


Well then I guess your DH better find a job that won't make him MIA for 10 months.



Quoting mamaBerg85:

Her mom has drug felonies, her moms family says sd is retarded and that they want to discipline the autism out of her. Mom moves away for months at a time and goes months without seeing her. Her mom never wanted her to livev there until she found out sd gets ssi. I'm not perfect but I faught tooth and nail to get that kid services even before dh and I were married. Many yrs before even applying for ssi. Bm would take sd to a dingy lil town without a special needs school, no therapy or social skills groups or anything I've already looked for similar programs in bms area for sd to do during the summer only therapist for emotional issues exist in that area. Sd is in 3 different types of therapies through out the month. This is why she lives with us. Mom wouldn't even schedule a surgery for ear tubes during the 6m she had custody and the dr said if sd had gone any longer with out tubes sd would be deaf.








Quoting soonergirl980:

If he is going to be gone that much then the kid should be with the mom.










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mamaBerg85
by Silver Member on Jan. 26, 2013 at 8:51 AM
Huh sorry what?


Quoting afwifeandmommy3:

Look into inlou of parenthesis . I have is regarding ss and BM dh regarding ss when we have the kids because either parent is deployed

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