This is a continuation on my other posts...
So DH goes and takes SD15 out to lunch today to explain to her our plan for her future and that we are not going to simply allow her to move back to her mom's house. Background - mom just got son back in August, had another baby in October, is on subsidized housing and welfare, still has meth addicts come into her home and Children's Aid is still involved in her life.
DH and I make a lot of money together, but then again, we WORK for it! After DH's talk with SD at lunch, SD says that she doesn't care and wants to live with mom. DH says "well what about our relationship" and SD replies "well you are rich so I can see you whenever I want."
SD has no rules when she is there, BM is not really a parent in the first place who dropped out at Grade 8 and got pregnant at 15 - so she really doesn't care about school, BM doesn't even have a room for SD and when SD just visited she slept in BM's bed or on the couch.
Spoke to BM's children's aid worker today and she said that there really isn't much that they would be able to do but because they know BM is struggling with the two she has right now, if SD went rampid, which she would with no supervision from BM, then they would have to consider taking one of her other kids away.
I just can't believe this is all happening. DH and I think that BM and now SD are just after our money somehow because we would have to pay $1800/month in child support to a b**** who sits on her ass. Did I mention BM hasn't paid a dime for SD in 4 years? We have suffered these past 4 years with SD's behaviour because her mom was in and out of rehab and chose meth over her kids, and now they want to screw us and BM wants to f*** up our family? This is the most stability SD has ever had in her whole entire life and she wants to throw it all away and BM wants to take it all away? I don't know how to feel right now - I am furious, pissed off, upset, sad, livid...FREAKING OUT!!!