In one of the previous posts, adoption was brought up and something along the lines of "how can you say a woman/man cannot love children they did not create as their own? What about adoption? Are you saying they love their bios more?"
The simple answer is: No. Nobody was saying adoptive parents do not love their children as their own. When you adopt you become the parent.
Adoption means an absence of the biological parent. It means all decision making powers-- education, health care, discipline...etc.
It means that you are with them all the time. Unless you CHOOSE to allow them to go... wherever. It means that you watch them and nurture them...
It means you take FULL responsibility for the child. Full. No questions asked. No cop outs. No disengagement when crap gets messy. FULL.
No... "I told DH/SO/BF to bring this up with BM because I just don't want to/can't/won't deal with it anymore."
No other parent. You are the parent. Period.
As a child whose BioDad was absent by his own choice and whose SF never adopted me I take offense to anyone saying they love a child like their own until they... well... prove it.
And most of you women who say you do... never can or will. It requires complete sacrifice.