Stepson with possible autism? Is this none of my business??
- I need advice about my stepson. I suspected when he was almost 1 that something might not be right. At that age he would not do much of anything, he would not move around, never tried to crawl. If you sat him on the floor he would stay in that exact spot and not try to reach for things. I have 2 boys of my own and by that age they were into everything, crawling walking along furniture and getting ready to take their first steps. My husband and I worked with him a lot trying to get him to walk and we were very persistent in encouraging him to try. Before we knew it he skipped right over crawling and was walking! Soon after his speech seemed to almost be advance, he was talking early and clearly for the most part so my worries subsided. He would never make eye contact unless his father would say "look at me" even then he would look but quickly look away. Things for the most part were ok for awhile. He is now almost five and over the last year I have become more and more concerned. He is still having accidents wetting the bed and occasionally during the day. He does not like to interact with other people, very unsocial, cries at the least provocation. Sometimes will just sit and cry for an hour and when asked what wrong he just says "I'm sad". I try consoling but he says he want to be left alone. He follows very close behind what ever adult he feels most comfortable with, so cose if u turn around u will step on him. If that adult leaves the room he leaves the room too. He also always walks on his toes and his motor skills are not good. We do a lot of joking and being silly in our family and he isn't able to joke or take a joke, almost seems offended by everything. I have tried so hard to develop a better relationship with him, but he is just very distant. In talking with other people about these issues I have been told that it sounds like a mild case of autism or Asperghers . I guess I was hoping for any helpful thoughts and opinions. Again this is my stepson so I don't know how to go about this I don't know if it is appropriate to bring it up with his mother. I just would like to see him get whatever help there may be as early as possible. Or is this just not my business ?
Ok I just wanted to update this because I just had a break through with BM. I had to ask her a question about a toy that Ss was asking for his bay. She actually was nice and asked me a few questions about Ss. She asked if we were having issues with him, attitude and wetting the bed. So I told her honestly that yes we are. I explained that he was still having accidents both at night and during the day and lots of attitude. I wanted to go on and explain that I was concerned about so many other things emotional wise and more. She also mentioned she was concerned about his eating habits. Which while here he is never hungry. She said she mentioned it to doc and he said he is very healthy 90% height and weight. I wanted to mention so badly that maybe he should be looked at for Asperghers. I have been doing reading about it and when I read the symptoms I feel like thy describe him perfectly. So I guess my question is do I mention it to her now that she has raised some concerns or not?