Husband's ex wife drama

[momtomy7kids]

This is an e-mail I got this morning. She addressed it to Tim (my husband) and he told me to go ahead and look at the e-mail. So I opened the e-mail up and it started out that she needs some money to pay for their son's medical bill. Ok I have no problem with that and Tim has said that he'll give her the money to cover it but she goes on and on and on about past things. This is the e-mail she wrote, keep in mind the stuff that she says about me is not true, I did not do any homewrecker type of thing, when we got together they were already divorced and the divorce was final so he was not married to her when we got together, they were already divorced.

This is how we met, they had just moved into a house behind where we live. They had three boys at the time and I am the oldest in my family and they wondered if I'd like to babysit for them, I accepted and they would call me to babysit for them when they needed a babysitter. I did this for about a year and a half or so, they had a 4th boy. I enjoyed babysitting for them, I had no idea that they were going through a divorce though until they mentioned it. So I said aww that's too bad or something to that nature and that was that. When the divorce was finalized the dad (Tim) asked me if I could babysit for him when he had the boys and I said sure no problem, I knew the boys pretty well at that point and he didn't want to go off and have to get another babysitter. So he had the boys one weekend, he needed to go to work so he called me up and asked me if I could babysit and I said that I could and that was that. So I went over and babysat for him, after he got home he paid me and I left. Well he needed me to do this again two weeks later, at that point he says to me, "I'm just wondering but are you single? I have never seen you with a boyfriend." I said yes I am, he says oh ok well I thought all pretty women your age had boyfriends. I'm thinking omg he just called me pretty so I said, "well I haven't had a boyfriend in about a year and I have always thought you were so handsome." He said thanks and he gave me a hug and told me that he really likes me and I said well what about our age difference? He says don't worry about that you make me feel younger and I thought at that point well what do I say now. He then asks me if I'd like to go out sometime just the two of us and I said I think I'd like that. At that point I was 18 years old and he was 34 years old. We started going together and about two months later he asked me to move in with him and I accepted it. I instantly fell in love with him, we got married the next summer. We have seven kids together and have been married for 15 years this year.

Now here is the e-mail his drama queen ex wife sent to him:

I have been trying to call you because there is a medical bill that I need to get paid for Collin and you don't ever answer your phone or anything so I am writing this e-mail. I can't pay this bill and if I don't I will probably go to jail, you probably would love knowing that I'm in jail. So tell me Tim why is it so difficult to answer your phone? Is it your wife stopping you from answering it or what? She is a real nutcase and the fact that you are so attracted to her boggles my mind. She is just using you to have a lot of kids, how many kids do you really need? We had 4 kids, we were a good family when we were married and having kids but you for some reason wanted to go and ruin that, your wife is nothing but a homewrecker and that is all there is to it. She ruined our family, I am actually shaking here when I realize what she did to our family. Go on and have 20 kids with her, it won't change the fact that you two are the scum of the Earth. I can't believe that I was ever married to a piece of shit like you and Michelle is nothing but a slut and whore and needs to keep her damn legs closed, you guys have enough children as it is and she just wants to keep having more, that's ridiculous and it's ignorant. She can't ever replace me, I'm the best thing that ever happened to you and you don't even realize that. Michelle, I'm sorry honey but Tim's my man not yours and you are nuts for thinking that he's yours. I am truly disgusted by the fact that you two have so many kids together, I bet you can't even take care of them, the little one's probably sit around in shitty diapers all day. We should have never got you as a babysitter then those kids wouldn't be suffering as much. It must be nice for you to wake up everyday knowing what you did, I can't believe I'm even wasting my time with you. Tim wanted to be with me, not you. Hope you have a rotten day bitch.

Sue

I'll just end up laughing at this but I thought I needed to vent a little.

[Birdseed]

Honestly, my first thought was "Wow, he must be loaded!  How do you pay for that many kids?"  And then "OMG, a 34 YO asked out an 18 YO?"  And then "Why does she think she's going to go to JAIL for unpaid medical bills?"  THEN, "Why would he show you this? It's just hateful?"

So I'll settle on the jail point. She's not going to go to jail for medical bills for the love of God.  And it IS just drama.  But goodness.  I am rather gobsmacked by the whole thing.  It's just so...TV worthy.

[joeynwillsmom]

Wow...jealous much?! And after 15+yrs! My sil's mom is STILL that way with her dad and they've been divorced over 25! She refused to come to the hospital in Nov when sil had my niece all because sm was there. (Sm and dad have only been together 5yrs maybe, just to clarify she was not the cause of thier split either). People are nuts!

[joeynwillsmom]

I don't think her Dh showing her was mean, at a certain point (I'm guessing since they've been married 15 yrs that's how long they've dealt with crazy) things just become jaw dropping but for lack of a better word, funny. "It almost becomes a "omg you HAVE to come see what craziness she's spouting now.."

Quoting Birdseed:

Honestly, my first thought was "Wow, he must be loaded!  How do you pay for that many kids?"  And then "OMG, a 34 YO asked out an 18 YO?"  And then "Why does she think she's going to go to JAIL for unpaid medical bills?"  THEN, "Why would he show you this? It's just hateful?"

So I'll settle on the jail point. She's not going to go to jail for medical bills for the love of God.  And it IS just drama.  But goodness.  I am rather gobsmacked by the whole thing.  It's just so...TV worthy.

[momtomy7kids]

Well he has money but we're not rich by any means, he works for the railroad. I budget money very well, he leaves me in charge of handling all the money and paying all the bills and pretty much spending the money. I make sure his child support gets paid and I just budget the money for things we need. When he gets his paycheck he cashes it and gives me his entire paycheck because he knows I know exactly what I'm doing and he is always busy making the money.

As far as a 34 year old asking an 18 year old out, I think that his thought process at the time was well I just went through a divorce and this girl is so much younger than me but it's perfectly legal. He waited until I was 18 to even ask me to live with him. He also told me that he thinks I'd make a great mother because I am good with the boys. I thought to myself just go for it.

[faerie75]

 

Quoting Birdseed:

Honestly, my first thought was "Wow, he must be loaded!  How do you pay for that many kids?"  And then "OMG, a 34 YO asked out an 18 YO?"  And then "Why does she think she's going to go to JAIL for unpaid medical bills?"  THEN, "Why would he show you this? It's just hateful?"

So I'll settle on the jail point. She's not going to go to jail for medical bills for the love of God.  And it IS just drama.  But goodness.  I am rather gobsmacked by the whole thing.  It's just so...TV worthy.

 this..

and are those kids ALL yours or are the skids included? that is a lot of kids but if you all can afford them thats your business.

personally a 34 year old hitting on an 18 year old is creepy as fuck but again your business and i guess it worked out for you. if i was your mom id have ripped that mans balls off. lol

after 15 years though, shes being nutty.

[momtomy7kids]

The thing that made me laugh the most was how she tried telling me that he is her man and the fact that she addressed the e-mail to him, not me and yet somehow started typing like she was talking to me.

[Lslk]

Wow! That's waaaaaayyyyyy too much drama for me!

[momtomy7kids]

Quoting faerie75:

 

Quoting Birdseed:

Honestly, my first thought was "Wow, he must be loaded!  How do you pay for that many kids?"  And then "OMG, a 34 YO asked out an 18 YO?"  And then "Why does she think she's going to go to JAIL for unpaid medical bills?"  THEN, "Why would he show you this? It's just hateful?"

So I'll settle on the jail point. She's not going to go to jail for medical bills for the love of God.  And it IS just drama.  But goodness.  I am rather gobsmacked by the whole thing.  It's just so...TV worthy.

 this..

and are those kids ALL yours or are the skids included? that is a lot of kids but if you all can afford them thats your business.

personally a 34 year old hitting on an 18 year old is creepy as fuck but again your business and i guess it worked out for you. if i was your mom id have ripped that mans balls off. lol

after 15 years though, shes being nutty.

We have 7 currently together, expecting our 8th. They have 4 together so right now he has 11 kids all together. We can afford them, I had always wanted to have a large family and he came from a large family too.

I never thought anything of our age difference, my parents weren't the happiest about it but they told me that I need to live my own life and they aren't going to interfere with it. He is only 8 years younger than my dad which is nuts but at the same time I don't even think about the age difference.

She tried to get us divorced about 8 years ago, her stunt didn't work obviously. She has just been a major pain all along, she lies a lot too. That was one thing my husband said he couldn't stand about her.

[rebeccasmly]

Is it possible that he started having feelings for you while they were still married and living together? Maybe the ex knew it and that is where her anger and resentment are stemming from. Just a thought. Gives her no reason to be acting this way 15 years later though. I think the bill should be paid and the remainder of the email ignored.

I would like to ask though why he is not answering her calls.

[momtomy7kids]

Quoting joeynwillsmom:

Wow...jealous much?! And after 15+yrs! My sil's mom is STILL that way with her dad and they've been divorced over 25! She refused to come to the hospital in Nov when sil had my niece all because sm was there. (Sm and dad have only been together 5yrs maybe, just to clarify she was not the cause of thier split either). People are nuts!

I know it, I've asked her before how does it feel to be so jealous of me? She tried telling me she isn't jealous of me but I know that's just one of her lies like she usually does. She has lied about so many things I bet there is no medical bill and she just used that as a reason to write an e-mail. She turned it into an e-mail directed towards me when she directed it towards my husband at first.