Well my DH had to go back to court Monday morning about his child support case with his ex.
2nd time in a row, BM did not show up, DH sat there for 4 hrs til he was the last one in the courtroom, then finally at the end BM's lawyer showed up, but the judge dismissed the case because BM did not show.
Last night DH texted BM to tell her he was going to pay her for the past 2 months that he owed, and also told her that it would probably be in her best interest to not attempt to take this back through the courts because what he has been paying is way more than he would have to pay based off his income alone so she would not come out ahead.
SO, for now, we are going to continue paying her directly, (of course we will continue keeping records of our payments in case she tries this again in the future) which is what DH and BM agreed last night.
I am actually sort of disappointed, not anything to do with the amount we pay her, but just because it would be easier to be able to pay through the courts and not directly to her. I told DH either he can make arrangements to pay her, or he can give me the money, I get a money order, and mail it to her house. Because I am just tired of these games BM plays, I don't want to see her or talk to her directly. She hasn't made it easy on us in the past.
But this is a good thing for us, maybe now we can stop stressing so much.