I'm having very mixed feelings about being a step mom right now. I'm not sure why. I've tried looking at it through all angles. From love her like my own to let my boyfriend (we're engaged) deal with it and completely stay out of it. I've even gone so far as to have started counseling this week (who is more concerned with my past problems, rather than why I came to him in the first place, but whatever). I'm very much in love with my fiance. I'm just not in love with the fact that he's a dad. Is it worth going through all this for a man? Is it worth putting my own child through all this? And by "this" I mean they're going to have to go to court soon and I'll have to deal with all that since he comes to me with issues. I'll have to always deal with her. Like I said, I truely love him. We'd already be married right now if he weren't a dad, but honestly, that's what's holding me back. It didn't really bother me at first but now that I've commited to the relationship, its all I can think about. I don't know what to do. I love him, and he's a great father to my son, but I guess I feel stuck and stupid for getting in to this when I knew I'd never be happy being a step mom. Now I fell in love and don't know what the right choice for everyone involved is. We are great during the week. The only fights we have is over her. And not really her, but when he has her on Fridays, I just wake up in a bad mood. I can't stand her being here. I cringe at it. I WANT to be able to come in to this and at least be happy and tolerant, but I dont' know that I can. We've been together six months and maybe I'm just not giving it enough time to get used to it. Our date is set for October 12th and I'm just scared that them more planning we do and the closer it gets that I'll change my mind about marrying him.
I've never seen a step parent situation work out (especially with step moms). My mother still has problems with my half brother 23 years later. I swore I would never get in to a situation like this and I guess I'm just disappointed with myself over it. Over the fact that I knew better and went against my gut in it. All because I fell for this man.
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