So she was talking to me after the kids left and the subject of step parenting came up. I was like you know the library here doesn't have any books on it. It is harder then just parenting my kids because I don't have anyone judge what I do with my own. She then said you can treat mine as you would yours. If Bert trust you enough to have married you then I trust you too. If you feel they are out of line do something about it, if you feel they need medical testing then take them (I think her oldest has add). She went on to say if you have Berts permission then you have mine. You don't have to worry about over stepping, I truat your judgement because you have done a great jov with your own.
I just stood there stund. Then I was think would you mind repeating that I want this recorded or written down. Lol
She has been saying stuff like this. Dh and I have Been talking and it feels like she is disengaging. She has been having a hard time controlling the kids and hasn't been yelling at them when they call me mom.
I wil still be careful though. Just because she says something doesn't mean she wont use it against us. It was just one of those moments that you are left standing there going " what just happened?".