Do you keep score of what dad does/buys/time spent etc with your child vs what he does for his other children?
Me and my cousin (who is a SM also) were talking about my son and SD when they get older. She said something about what kind of teenager my SD may be and I told her I don't agree because her dad is THERE and he's gonna be THERE. He mentioned before how he can't wait to have daddy/daughter days with her. In other words he plans to set the bar high so her standards will be high when she starts dating etc. So my cousin caught an attitude and asked is he planning father son days with our son?. And my answer is of course he is. That's a given.
Her next comment made me need to ask is this NORMAL. She said for every 1 daddy/daughter day he has with her, he would need to have 3 father/son days for her to be satisfied if it were her situation. So I inquired about her husband and their kids (she has 2 BKs and 3SK) and she said she keeps score. For every one toy he buys her step kids, she's making sure he buys 2 for their kids. If he takes 2 hours and goes to his oldest son basketball game, he needs to take a whole damn day sun up to sun down and spend it with her son. And if he ever says NO to something surrounding their kids, she is quick to break out the scorecard and point out anything remotely similar he has done for the SK.
I just listened and didn't comment at all....to each its own is always my motto BUT that's not the kind of relationship I want to have with my man or the kids. But according to her this is normal lol. So I had to ask. Honestly do you keep score? If so WHY?