Without too details, which i'm sure will emerge as i start to post about stuff and not just sit back and read, i'm going to go out on a limb and ask for advice here at the risk of being bashed whether i am right or i'm wrong because i'm the "stepmom" which here is like being the daily serial killer of every jaded ex-wives shattered dreams. (no offense)
Anyway, im married to a wonderful man, i have 2 dd's, he has 2 dd's, and we have one dd together. That's 5 AMAZING girls. any way my 11 yr old sd's mother (dh's ex) apparently allows her to shave her crotch. i know this because my 14yr old dd told me that she wants to shave hers bc sd11 shaves hers. Can you believe that shit?? And what's worse is that she's been doing it since she was 9, bc her mother taught her to. and when i asked her questions, she couldn't tell me why she does it, the benefits of it or anything. just that she shaves every couple weeks or so. That's awful to me. Who shaves a 9 year old's crotch?? Hint: if she still plays with Barbies, shaving is not what you ought to be teaching! She's way too young, my dd14 is way too young. sd11 developed early but still! what is this some sick bonding time? in that case, stop trying to friend the child thinking she's gonna always take your side and love you best! Anyway, who agrees/disagrees? go!
update: I posted this bc I really didn't knw what to do. For once I paused and thought instead of just reacted bc it it's not what I would do. It's something I'm working on bc I'm so protective of my family. I see that it's not my place unless sd 11 asks me to assist her and in that case, I can tell her how I thnk she's too young. I see that it's not a battle I need to push. Thank you.