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No, because dh trust and knows Sally very well to add her to all of his kids contact information
yes, because bm doesnt know her
What ever dh choose to do since she's only listed to pick her up during his parenting time per his approval
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Total Votes: 24
So recently the school sent out letters with the children asking for parents to update thier child's school records. DH brought it to my attention that the paperwork needed to be returned immediately. That night DH asked if I think he should redue my sd contact info since her paperwork is freshly new because SD just started going back to school fulltime(her mother finally fell threw with the agreement). I told him to be on the safe side yes redue hers as well and contact bm just in case she or her family may have changed any of their information within the last couple weeks. So dh text bm and asked her for all of the people she wants on sd release forms and emergency contacts from her side of the family. BM did send him the names addresses and phone numbers of the people, only 2 of them had a change of address. Dh listed all the same people from our side of the family adding my cousin which is also his bestfriend wife. So yesturday when bm came to pick up sd she told DH that she asked the school to see sd ontact information and she noticed a person by the name of lets say "Sally Kream" and that she doesnt no this person or never meet her so she doesnt feel that she needs to be on the paperwork giving authorized pick up for sd and how he needs to get approval from her 1st. So dh told her that both of them have joint legal custody and that he doesnt not need her approval and she does not have to konw sally because he knows her very well and so does sd and that he added her to the paperwork because during the time sd may be over during my DH parenting time and we may need sally to pick up our kids she able to get sd as well. Why would sd be left in school if were sending Sally to pick up the other kids. Bm still said she felt like she needed to know her first. So dh told her she might as well get over herself because its people he doesnt know from bm side that my sd as interaction with as well a few people on the school paperwork she wanted listed. He informed bm that if he had someone in question that wasnt trust worthy, reliable etc he wouldnt put that specific person on any of his children's things period. He told BM that this is all apart of them 2 raising a child in two different households and families that sometimes their will be things and or people that the other parent doesnt not know about.
BM is still upset because she doesnt know "Sally" and she feels that Sally shouldnt be on their. BM fail to realize that if dh acted out the way she does her life would be turnt upside down. Raising a child seperatly will often be raised different and have different rules, way of raising, different people just different pretty much bearly anything will be the same when you have a child in 2 different homes. BM needs to sit and relax and worry about what she has to and need to do when she has sd on her own time......although I can feel what bm is saying because she doesnt know her and she's not at ease but and the same time I see why dh added her as well and my sd do spend lots of time with "Sally and her daughters"
Also since both parents have split times their is a code that both parents have(different codes) when either parent needs someone to pic up the kids or just SD(during her mother time) will call the school giving the special code saying its okay to relase the child/children to___________.This doesnt apply to me or SF.