Being involved in a bleneded family or a stepfamily do you feel that its neccesary to take family vacations or have family outings including the outside parent(the parent in the other home)?
For example if your family consist of yours, his and ours, or his and our, just his, or just yours or even just yours and his. Do you think its right to have the other parent come along or just have family time within just your family thats in your home?
I am asking these questions because bm often tries to invite us all out to take the kids to a place together. We have tired it once but it was very weird but it was cool but I really didnt see the reason on why we all needed to go. I feel that if bm wants to take her daugter some where she could and then if dh and I wanted to take all kids somewhere we could, and not all 3 of us. DH feels that he can never trust bm or even forgive her for the things she has done but he tolerates her for the sake of his daughter he tries to be nice and co parent but other than the 3 of us taking the kids out together seems a little be weird especially since dh and bm didnt start of on good terms raising sd together and bm and my self didnt start of on good terms.
What do you think?