So here it is
BM isn't exactly a stellar mom. On top of that, she is trying to be more of a "friend" to her kids than a parent.
Homeworks are boring, they play instead. Reading? Let's just skip it.
They go to bed at 8-9 on SCHOOL nights (they are only 6&8) and no bedtime on weekends because she likes to sleep in in the morning.
This friday when they came home, sd6 told her dad "finally we are home" he asked why do you say it that way? She said "i am so sick of always being tired when we are at mom's house. We always go to bed late and I am always tired"
What would you do with that? I mean legally there is nothing to be done as she only has poor parenting skills, they are not threatened.
Discuss it with her is not an option, as she does not consider df's opinion on parenting. Her motto is do what you want your week and i will manage mine as I want.
So what can be done?
Update: apparently I wasn't clear about the school situation. Yes, both teachers have contacted df about lack of concentration, tiredness and late assignments. Both have mentionned it has been more obvious since the holidays.
For those of you whose children function well on little sleep, I understand. My dd can go through the day with less than 6h of sleep. My skids, on the other hand, are big sleepers and get super cranky on less than 10h. So no, going to bed at 9pm on school night is not appropriate for them.
Was I looking for a rope to hang bm from? Definitely not.
Was I hoping for some wise words we could tell them to help them be more confident and speak for themselves? Yes.
Nope, didn't get that either.