My DH has a DD, she's 8, with another woman who lives about 45 minutes away from us. DH and I have been together for a little over 4 years and we have a son who is a little shy of 2 years old.
DH and BM have a schedule worked out that works for them. I have changed my work schedule around the best I can to accomodate my DSs needs (nap times, not being in the car for 3 hours round trip...yes...terrible traffic) because I realize that it is hard to change the schedule they all have based off of our sons needs. I changed my schedule for my son when their daughter started school, so yes, I have changed my schedule to accomodate their specific situaiton.
My issue lies here. My DS is going through a phase where his nap time and his schedule needs in general, are changing. Because our schedule is not changing, his attitude is suffering. He is grumpy, not waking up at the right times on Monday Mornings, not doing well sunday evenings, etc.
My DH and I work and cannot afford not to. On Sundays I work until 3:30 and when I get home at 3:40, DH leaves at 3:45 for his shift. So , I leave in the early AM for work. He takes his daughter back to her moms on Sunday. They leave at 1 PM (not bad traffic on Sundays) to be there around 2 PM. He usually gets home around 3-3:15. since I am at work, my son is in the car. He usually takes his nap around 2-2:15. So, he is either in his car seat napping, or not napping at his usual time or somtimes, not at all. How do I fix this? It is affecting his behavior at home, and it isn't fair to him, but I cannot switch my schedule around again. I work for the state, and we are in session right now, and they are VERY particular about it. How should I address this with my DH? I see it causing a problem with him thinking that i'm just trying to cause problems, but really, I'm just trying to make sure that I am always accomodating my sons needs. Any Advice?