SS12 lives with us...his language and behavior has always been a issue. I have spoke to DH about it but he does not do anything mainly becaise he thinks i am crazy because when he gets home SS puts his halo on. well yesterday my SS informed me that i should have had a abortion with DD 6 months old and today he tells me that a loved one i tragically lost is no longer considered my family cause he is dead. the behavior i see i feel truelly warrents being evaluated by a therapist but i know DH is not going to agree. i just do not know how to bring it up with out causing war between us?