So we just got a major curveball thrown at us the other day. DH received a possible job offer that would begin in August this year in Germany! This is happening just as BM was in the process at looking to buy a house nearby us and moving here from out of state. I admit, I have very mixed feeling about this, on one hand it could be very exciting but there are so many factors we have to take into consideration. We own a house here, custody of kids, my job, friends and family. But DH lived in Germany for 3 years when he was in the military and he LOVED it, my youngest SS was even born there. If we went we would rent our house out but as far as the kids go, that would be complicated. We know that BM could refuse to allow us to take the kids out of the country since she has joint legal custody, but we really doubt that would happen. BM really doesn't want to have all 3 kids with her full time, she would probably not be happy with it at first but then get over it. DH told me that if BM agreed, they would let the kids decide whether they wanted to stay or go, and then we would just do long distance visitation like we have been doing. I know that the consesus on her is going to be that DH would be abandoning his kids but I really don't think that is the case. Heck, BM did the same thing 5 years ago and the kids still adore her. Also this is a GREAT job, he wouldn't be able to find something that good where we live now. IDK, I guess I do want some honest opinions but just know that this has not been decided at all, it is just a possibility that could happen if we chose it.