This is a testimony to how things can DRASTICALLY change fairly quickly.
At ages 12-13 SD wanted pretty much nothing to do with us. She was in the mindset of getting her daddy all to herself and that Stepmom and stepsister were evil. She didn't come over for almost a year. Now, at age 15 she wants to live with US and just have visitation with her mom. She's said to DH, "Daddy, I'm beginning to think that all of these years my mom was trying to get us to hate you guys." The poor, confused child.
My how things have changed and turned full circle. I never, ever thought it would happen and I never, ever thought I'd even ACCEPT this girl in my house full time. It was bad. Those of you who remember me and my story should be shocked right about now. LOL I've learned to truly never say never. I was wrong, I was sure this would never happen. But they DO grow up and realize things. They DO gravitate to a stable house, they DO gravitate to people who give them rules to follow and who parent them and don't try to be their friend. They figure it out.
We didn't initiate any of this. Mom called here a few different times, screaming about how DH needed to come get their daughter, she didn't want her anymore-in front of her. One of her many brilliant parenting tactics for getting a child to behave. This has happened numerous times in recent months-her telling the child to get out. Her tactic backfired because now SD said she WANTS TO LIVE HERE. Mom is now telling SS13 that my DH has done this to her and that he's taking his sister from them. She guilts SD all of the time and says, "you're abandoning your family"...after she's the one who told her repeatedly to get out.
Bm said she'd agree to sign papers because DH said he wouldn't allow this unless it was in writing. Now naturally BM has backed out and won't sign. My question is, what can he do without the high expense of an attorney, if anything? Since she's 15 a judge will consider HER asking to live here correct? (South Carolina) Thoughts and advice appreciated.