So SD12 is choosing courses for next year. DH is "guiding" her we'll say towards courses that are tougher and will benefit her vs fluff "fun" courses. Puts high value on strong education. She's mad he just doesn't pat her little head and say "do whatever makes you happy kiddo". They had a little fight yesterday about it. I tried smoothing things over and explaining to her that his job was not to just tell her what she wants to hear, to go to he friends for that bit to push her and to tell her what she needs to hear even I she doesn't like it. That's what a good parent does, he's her dad, not her friend. And he's a very good dad in fact. She goes on and tells me "you just don't understand my generation!". Ok so here's where I failed, I couldn't help but chuckle. Oh and she got pissed. Of course I had to explain I threw that line at my parents, them at theirs and one day she too woul chuckle and remember this moment when her daughter as a preteen/teen used it on her...se was less that impressed.
Then on to SS9. He's struggling in two subjects because he's too busy acting up in class to learn...we have him in therapy right now dealing with some issues. But of course he's hearing about this from his dad. So he asks me on the ride to school this morning "why do we have to always talk about this stuff? I don't want to!" Uh? Really buddy, then make better choices to behave in class, learn and you won't hear a word! He really thinks he's going to whine his way out of not hearing it from his dad about a 4th grader not pulling the grades and misbehaving in class...oh boy...
I think I need a stiff drink...or something stronger...I don't know whether to laugh or scream...right now just shaking me head at these two...
For the mom's out there...as kids reach their preteen an teen years does it seem as they actually regress in the common sense department? I swear the older two are acting dumber than their 5 year old little brother...
Oh my goodness do they regress! My SD11 used to be a fairly mature level-headed young lady at age 8 and 9, she stunned me at how logical and rational she could be. Not the case anymore though, she will be so set on one emotion/thought one moment and the next she is completely in another place, and will deny that she has changed. Sometimes she makes me feel like I'm the one losing my mind when she tells me how naive I am about her generation. I tell her that I was her age not that long ago but that does not go over well at all, to her 16 years in an eternity. Anyway, yes, I totally understand your frustrations as my skids are 13, 11 and 9 right now, prime time for hormonal drama.
sd11 told me last weekend "YOU JUST DON"T UNDERSTAND THE IMPORTANCE OF MY WARDROBE IN SCHOOL! THERE ARE HOTTIES HERE!!!"
Yah because you're the only 11 yr old on the planet, first off. And 2nd-I TOTALLY FORGOT your generation doesn't go to school for an education anymore-it's to socialize/hookup and be fashion models (eyeroll)
I'm glad her mother's teaching her such wonderful values.
Quoting Tigress22304:sd11 told me last weekend "YOU JUST DON"T UNDERSTAND THE IMPORTANCE OF MY WARDROBE IN SCHOOL! THERE ARE HOTTIES HERE!!!"
Yah because you're the only 11 yr old on the planet, first off. And 2nd-I TOTALLY FORGOT your generation doesn't go to school for an education anymore-it's to socialize/hookup and be fashion models (eyeroll)
I'm glad her mother's teaching her such wonderful values.
I'm sorry they are giving you a hard time, time for a drink...I'm about to have one too. Might as well enjoy not being pregnant by drinking my sorrows away, lol...two more weeks until my 30th bday :*(
Quoting newstepmom61811:
OMG ROFLMAO, oh wow...NO WAY I would hae kept my composure to that one...an 11 year old checking out other 11 year old hotties...she'd be terrified if one glanced back...oh God I would have busted out laughing...you are a better woman than I...oh I see this getting so much funnier and harder no to offend her...my very dry sense of humor is so lost on kids and going to get me in so much shit with them...oh, I'm screwed...
she gets this shit from her classmates and BM's sd15.
Oh believe me-she's gonna be getting it from her father if she comes down this weekend.
She's failing school again-therapy is helping her so much-but she's suffering in school because of it.
Believe me I DO NOT CARE IF I OFFEND HER. I am nothing but honest with this child. I do not lie or hide shit from her. I wish someone was there for me when i was her age to help me like this.
(she can't look any guys in the eyes-if we're out and about in public she's always got that ipad/ipod thing in her hands listening to music-head down)
Yup teens. They are a breed of their own....
One of my friends once said she wanted to duct tape hers to a tree. I thought she was horrible for saying so. Now, I understand the sentiment.
My daughter was friends with a girl since 3rd grade, if she wasn't at her friends house, her friend was at ours, I got to be good friends with her parents. I would ask if K. was coming over and dd would say, I don't know yet, she has to clean her room. I would grab my chest, and back away, and say NO WAY.. I'M NOT THE ONLY PARENT ON THIS EARTH THAT MAKES A KID CLEAN THEIR ROOM?.. my dd would roll her eyes at me. when K.'s dad would drop her off, I would say, hey Paul , YOu don't really make K clean her ROOM? and both girls would roll their eyes! LOL
yeah, I would look at both my kids and think where did their common sense go? what happened? I didn't raise you 2 like this! UGGH. I'll never forget they were about 16 & 14 and arguing and fussing, each saying they could kick the others butt. I finally said, TAKE IT OUTSIDE! Both of you, go outside, beat each other senseless, the winner will come walking inside, and then it will be settled. Both girls shut their mouths and looked at me like I had 2 heads. (they quit fighting)
Quoting gr8d8n3mom:My daughter was friends with a girl since 3rd grade, if she wasn't at her friends house, her friend was at ours, I got to be good friends with her parents. I would ask if K. was coming over and dd would say, I don't know yet, she has to clean her room. I would grab my chest, and back away, and say NO WAY.. I'M NOT THE ONLY PARENT ON THIS EARTH THAT MAKES A KID CLEAN THEIR ROOM?.. my dd would roll her eyes at me. when K.'s dad would drop her off, I would say, hey Paul , YOu don't really make K clean her ROOM? and both girls would roll their eyes! LOL
yeah, I would look at both my kids and think where did their common sense go? what happened? I didn't raise you 2 like this! UGGH. I'll never forget they were about 16 & 14 and arguing and fussing, each saying they could kick the others butt. I finally said, TAKE IT OUTSIDE! Both of you, go outside, beat each other senseless, the winner will come walking inside, and then it will be settled. Both girls shut their mouths and looked at me like I had 2 heads. (they quit fighting)
Having another baby???
- newstepmom61811
on Feb. 8, 2013 at 8:27 AM