Don't you typically tell your older children when you have a baby?
When I found out BM was pregnant, I was really annoyed. For a multitude of reasons, mostly bc she doesn't even talk to or see SD or her YDD, so she should obviously just stop having children. I don't think she deserves to get to restart a family every time one doesn't work out the way she wants. I also want to have a baby but I know it's not the right time and DS and SD need us so we are waiting for some things to settle down and we are just trying to do the right thing by waiting. So lots of emotions about the whole thing when I found out she was pregnant. I got over my own emotions, after all what she does really has no direct impact on me. But it does impact SD greatly. She feels so abandoned by her BM, we have been through so much with SD and the issues BM has caused for her without even considering that what she does has an affect on SD. So I stopped looking at her fb, it was pointless really.
Now I had to look. I'm mad, so mad for SD. So mad that BM never even called to tell SD she was pregnant, and still hasn't called to let her know she has a brother. How do you just skip that part of telling your kid they are a big brother/sister? I'm sure I've vented here before I just still can't get over this whole situation.