Here's some backstory:
I have been in my Sd's life since she was 6 months old, she is now 3.5 years. When she first started calling me Mommy (when she started talking) we decided to correct her, and have her call me by my first name. We did this out of respect for Bm, we told Bm what happened and how we were handling it. When Sd was almost 2.5, she started getting very upset when I corrected her. So Dh and I talked it over and decided we would let her call me whatever she wanted. (Bm was informed) Since then she has called me Mommy most of the time, with the occasional use of my first name.
Now, Bm is engaged to a man who has been in and out of Sd's life. Sd tells us that Bm tells her to call him Daddy. Dh doesn't like it, but hasn't said anything due to Sd calling me Mommy.
So tonight, Sd tells us that Bm says she's her only Mommy and she has to call me by my first name. And she said that Bm makes her call Dh "father".
Dh and I are so upset! This is so disrespectful and wrong! We told Sd tonight that she can call us whatever she wants, and she continued to call us Mommy and Daddy. I'm just so tired of Bm's mind games :(
This was posted back in FEBRUARY and is a complete non-issue now, so hash things out with each other as much as you'd like, but I will no longer be responding.