So earlier today I was talking to SD11 in the kitchen because she was asking about when her BM is coming to visit (BM is coming to town next weekend to go house hunting). Anyway, she started picking on her brother and so my SS9 tells her that no one likes her...she's mean to everyone (typical sibling rivalries). SD responds that her BM likes her and so I quickly mention that DH and I like her too... and then in my sarcastic tone added "sometimes" followed quickly by "I'm just kidding". We joke around like that alot and she totally knew I was joking so she says "yeah, well I act different at when I'm with BM because I don't wan to stress her out". So again, semi-joking I say "but your okay with stressing your Dad and I out??", SD then explained that it's because Dad and I can handle it better, Mom gets upset easier etc... I just kind of laugh it iff because I don't want to start a debate or anything but I was thinking, great, so apparently DH and I are seen as the punching bag because we can handle it better....sigh. Honestly though, SD is correct but it still sucks that we have to endure more of SDs drama, not that I want BM to have drama but I just don't see why SD feels it's okay to act out with us either. And when I say act out I mean stuff like bothering her little brother, giving attitude, being overly silly/sarcastic to the point where it becomes disrespectful etc. It's not like we let her get away with it, we just simply correct her or give an appropriate punishment, DH is not a pushover. Anyone else deal with this? I guess this is just a mini vent.