Psyc. evaluation is back, I was right all these years!!
My 2 sd's came to live with us when they were 18 months and 28 months, the reason they were taken from bm was due to abuse and neglect and the fact bm beat the youngest so bad that she was hospitalized for 9 days. RIght from the start the oldest had problems ranging from destroying any babydoll that looked like bm to peeing in airvents and doing #2 in the closet. Thru the years her behavior has gottan worse to the point whole days go by and she knows nothng, not even her own name and has tried to leave school. THe disruptive behavior always happened following her visits with mom. I have took her to several therpist thru the years and finally found one that agreed a psyc. evaluation needed to be done before a dignoise could be decided. WEll results are back and recommendation for treatment. She suffers from RAD's thats where the child did not develope any attachment starting at birth and she suffers PTSD which is the end result of her seeing her mother beat the crap out of her sister and beating on her! THe report said her bm is the trigger and it could be her smell, a word or just a certain behavior that she does in front of the child that could set her off...They recommended we continue with therpy and with bm visitation right change the visits. Instead of sending her for 2 weekends out the month cut it down to over night from fri 6pm to sat 6pm. If her behavior continues then stop bm visits altogether until she is old enough to know her trigger and a healthy way to handle it..THere is no cure for RAD's and no medicine she can be put on for PTSD until she is older. BM comes friday to pick them up where we will inform her of the test results and let her know the changes to her visits. If she cant agree to do whats best for the girls then she gets no visits and she can take us to court where she will lose all custody rights!!