Hello. The BM of my 2 step kids is deceased, hs been for 3yrs, and before this was basically not in their life for 2yrs before this.
I am so stressed because we have a 2 yr old, and I still feel like an outsider and just wish that the BM was around so we could have some alone time w our son and so I could have time w my husband, it's so hard, and I am letting everything build up and drive me nuts. They are lazy, spoiled, and at times gang up on me, they are obsessed and soooo clingy to dad, and they are 17 and 22. Way too old to be so dependent on him for every move they make .i feel like an outsider because they don't listen to me and he's afraid to discipline them in my opinion,
i guess I'm just asking for advice on how to make myself happy again, and how to quit letting these issues bother me so much, how to let go and quit hoping for it to change or for them to treat me more like a parent. I do so ,much for them and have for 6yrs. No respect still...they only go to dad for things, never to me unless it will benefit them, and they never talk ppoorly to him the way they do to me at times. I keep obsessing and looming so forward to the day they grow up and move out on their own, and know its prob wrong of me, but I can't help it.
any advice would be sooooo appreciated....