See what CafeMoms are saying about saving time this holiday season..
so, 1wk and a half a go, ss13 got in trouble for getting f's , not doing his hw, not completing classwork, then when SO asked him about it ss13 lied right to SOs face. well, that pissed him off ( i felt like saying "how does it feel" but i didnt.) he asks him again what happen, ss lies again, so he shows him SKYWARD(this is a site for the school that shows all hw, classwork, tests, grades, absences, missing assignments and so on.) he says "its right here in black n white, how can you stand there and lie to me?" he says "but, dad thats not true,"..this is the typical way of ss. so ss keeps lying and SO ends up hitting him with the belt ( no not a beating, far from it ), then i told him that theres no use in spanking him, he doesnt care and you and i both know that he is just going to do it again, no sooner than me finishing what i was saying to SO, ss comes out and asks his dad if he can hv a snack smh....his dad told him to go inside n do what he already told him to do (hw). Isaid to SO, "thats my point, any other kid that would have just gotten a spanking like you just gave him is NOT going to come out 5min later and ask for a snack".....this was a thursday.....
friday......(the next day).....so SO asks if he did his hw and if he wrote in the agenda book. SS says yes he did, so SO says let me see....ss brings the agenda and SO opens it to the correct date and theres NOTHING WRITTEN (ss lied again), he asks for the hw, ss says he turned it in, SO goes on skyward, and the hw for that day is MISSING/NOT TURNED IN......wow, what a surprise (not really)....so SO grounds him and takes xbox away until grades are brought up.....ok now skip to monday
monday, tuesday, wednesday....SO ask to see the agenda and hw, ss gives the "i wrote it it, and ive been writing in it and ive been doing my hw dad....SO checks skyward AND.....YEP, NO HW AND NOTHING WRITTEN IN AGENDA. On top of this, ss has been very disrespectful with me, lying about other things and the new thing "tattleing on me" which when he goes and tattles, its a lie or half of story.....So SO AND i BRING SS OUT TO THE GARAGE TO HAVE A TALK.....SO, says hes not going to hear any lies and he wants explanations of why hes not doing what he knows he is suppose to do and why does he insist on continuing to be disrespectful with me and making up lies about me....bottom line= he doesnt like that i catch him at his lies and he cant get away with things with me as far as school, he didnt have a answer...so ss already had xbox taken, hes grounded and he got spanked already, NOTHING WORKS. A friend of mine said to try taking his room away (he shares with ds11) this way he will see your serious, he loses something that he really likes . So we told him because he doesnt seem to take any of the other punishments serious he will now lose his room completely if he continues to disrespest me . he says BUT DAD, WHY MY ROOM?, he says well because i keep talking to you, spanked you, grounded you, took xbox n toys from you, and none of that matters to you. you keep disrespecting kelly and you just dont care about anything or anyone so this is what im going to do..."if you disrespect kelly again, and dont do as your told then thats whats going to happen, do you understand?" ss says" yes but its not fair" SO says, but you do understand am i right?" ss says" yes".....go to thurs
thurs......well, what do you know... he starts with ignoring what i told him, didnt do his chores, and didnt do hw or write in his agenda....( not a shocker). SO comes home and nicely says"ok, you lost your room" ss says" but dad, why?" SO says" you know why" and then he goes on to show him all that he did wrong, we then have a talk, no yelling no threats just talking, it seemed ok....
friday...(he goes to bm house for this weekend)....he comes home from school and ONCE AGAIN.....no hw, didnt write in agenda and didnt do his chores.....on top of that, he wants to show his ass because bms SO came to get him that day and i guess he thought since he was leaving he can do/act however and that it will be forgotten by sunday night....NOPE....
sunday night (tonight)...SO goes and meets bm's SO to pick up ss , ss gets in the car and SO starts in with you didnt do xyz and on top of that you wanna show your butt to kelly cuz your moms bf was there , well, since you did all that AGAIN, your going to have consequences for everything....ok, now my question is WHAT ELSE CAN MY SO DO , IF HES DONE/ TAKEN EVERYTHING LITERALY FROM HIS SON??????
Sorry do long, but if i didnt give you some insight you would have questioned did i do this, or what did he do etc lol.....PLEASE HELP, WE ARE AT OUR END WITH THIS KID...and no, this is NOT typical teen behavior, i have 2 teens and i know plenty of teens and i was a teen a one time...this isnt normal at all
so SO and i bring up the soup kitchen idea to ss13. He responds with, well dad i dont know why you would send me there, u know im just going to sit and do nothing, they can get a job and work"...wow. really?!?!?!?...this kid ....smh..
if you have any other ideas i would appreciate them. I do think that we are going to let him hang out at the homeless shelter a few days,