Step Moms: Respect Must Be Demanded (But Not By You)
This article really sums up my views on respect and the stepparent, this is how my husband handled it from Day 1 and I think it works. Of course, I am assuming the stepparent isn't abusing or disrespecting the stepkids. The parent (biological) is the one who is the common individual between stepparent and his child he needs to establish the boundaries and ensure all parties are comfortable.
What are your thoughts? Would that work for you?